Why you need to learn to love yourself
Contrary to popular belief the meaning of love cannot be discovered simply by gazing into the eyes of your beloved. Whilst we consider love to be a feeling and emotion it is also a state of being. Being is what is left behind once you remove all of the challenges, issues and situations that life throws in your way. To understand what love really is you need to love yourself. Only then can your world fully open up to receive real love from others, true romantic love included.
Loving yourself is the key to building a solid foundation that allows you to form and sustain harmonious relationships with other people. Self-love is the understanding and acceptance of who you are and your value in the world. By acknowledging all of your positive lovable ways and quirky traits, along with the negative patterns of behaviour you display, you begin to gain a true understanding of the person you really are.
Self-love isn’t about being selfish and greedy and ensuring you stand at the front of the queue to get your needs met first. Self-love is the gentle exploration and acceptance of yourself, through understanding what your personal needs are and doing all that is required to meet those needs. Once your needs are met you will find inner peace, harmony and balance and love will simply flow towards you.
Love isn’t all Mills & Boon and rom-com lovey dovey. Real love hurts, because it causes you to look at all aspects of yourself and to open yourself up to vulnerability. Loving yourself means that you have to look at each and every aspect of you in order to learn to accept that these individual traits are the components that make up you. Without loving every aspect you cannot feel complete.
If you have a personal history that is painful you need to explore beyond the emotional boundaries you have set up that keep the experiences and memories locked up. To release past pain is to free yourself to begin the process of self-healing and self-love. Therapies like hypnotherapy and spiritual healing can help you unlock the doors to a greater self-awareness.
The phrase “don’t they just love themselves…” often implies that someone is displaying delusions of grandeur and acting like ‘God’s gift’. It may be a throw away comment but the person in question has some understanding of the importance of feeling like he/she is Number One, however misplaced their judgment may be. Over confidence is not a pretty sight however, so getting the balance right is essential.
When you love yourself you do so because you are in full acceptance of all that you are, and you also accept that about others. The perfect balance allows you to be you with no judgment or expectations. Once you have stepped into love, through knowing and loving yourself, you reflect that back out into the world and unconditional LOVE fills your world from all angles.